Motivational Monday – Lets Make Monday Better!

Monday I choose to be awesome, I choose to have an amazing day and time no matter what. Then my Monday is going to be great. *POSITIVE* it makes all the difference. ... ♡

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Ah Monday. The first day of the working week. It’s back to early starts, full on to do lists, not having enough time in the day to achieve everything and desperately trying to. If you’re one of the few that actually loves their job, then I applaud you, and I speak for the rest of us when I say how’d you do it? Seriously please drop me/us a note in the comment box below. I would love it if everyone shares how they make their working week work for them.

If you’re one of the majority whose job is OK if you don’t think about it too much, or it’s a bit dull, not creatively satisfying, very stressful or if you work with some not very nice people then I hope to inspire you with this post on this here Monday morning. This post isn’t designed to teach you “how to suck eggs” but let it be a prompt to what you already know. You may even already have some of these things in place.

First things first grab a steaming cup of lovely coffee, posh tea or a nice refreshing fruit juice in the morning.  Even something as small as a nice drink can brighten up your morning, whether it’s at home or en route to work. The more indulgent or special it is for you on a personal level the better you’ll feel. My personal fave is Pret A Manger Soya Cappuccino en route to work or an appointment. I will get up earlier so that I can sit in the coffee shop and take time to enjoy my drink, my surroundings and mentally prepare myself for the day.

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Have a decent breakfast:

Breakfast is so important in my book. Not only has it been proven to kick-start our metabolisms, if we eat the right foods it’s all great for our mental health too. Porridge, eggs and yoghurt with fruit are all excellent foods to start the day off with.

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Put on an outfit that you feel confident and beautiful in:

Now I realise that outfits should probably be planned the night or day before. However it is always a good idea to invest in a few simple lightweight black, navy and beige dresses that you can throw on when you’re in a rush. Pair with a little cardi, statement jewellery and some pumps. This look is classic and screams glamour without trying too hard.  Perfect for a Monday morning when you would rather be heading back to bed than out the door. It is true that if you look good you feel good. You’ll walk taller, be more confident and it is more likely that people will respond to you in a positive manner. You are also less likely to react sensitively or with hostility. These latter traits are easy to express when we don’t feel good in ourselves.

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Ensure your bag is packed with the essentials before you head out the door; phone, keys, wallet, work pass, rail or bus pass, deodrant, any femine hygiene products, make up essentials, a pen and your diary. 5 minutes before you head out the door mentally run through your day using your diary as a prompt – meetings, urgent work emails that you need to respond to and phone calls you need to make. Then put it out of your mind until you get to the office.  This exercise is designed to ensure you haven’t missed anything before you leave the house.

Deeps breaths and bring yourself into the present moment fully:

On the way to the office focus on the sights, smells, noise and the things you touch (through your feet and hands etc). This brings you into a “being” state, rather than a “doing” state and is much more relaxing for the mind. In short it brings you into the present and allows your mind to settle.

And remember this day will pass, and you will never get it back. Go out and be the best you can be. And remember don’t let anyone dull you sparkle!

Love

Lizzie x

A Little Update on Life & A Promise To Blog More Regularly

Hi Everyone,

I hope you’re all well; loving life and the beautiful British summer that we seem to be having at the moment. I know I am. Although as I type this the sun has gone behind a very omnious looking black cloud. I think a few spots of rain may be on its way…

I wanted to provide you gorgeous lot with an update on what’s been happening in my life since I last posted way back in June, and I’m pleased to say that on the whole it has been really positive, and I am hoping to post more regularly:

I achieved my 1 stone lost award at Slimming World.

It took me 13 weeks on the Slimming World diet to lose my stone but I got there a couple of weeks ago now. Unfortunately I have been ill with a virus this last week so I haven’t been able to make it to group. I’m gutted but trying to keep my motivation up so that I can have a loss when I go back next week. The week I won my stone award I also won Slimmer of the Week and to say I am over the moon at this double achievement would be an understatement. Two weeks on and I am still chuffed to bits.

{Me proud as punch with my stone award and Slimmer of the Week awards}

I am on better medication for my depression.

I switched from Duloxetine to Venlalic (which is a branded type of Venlafaxine). Both Duloxetine and Venlafaxine are SNRI’s.  Basically they’re both antidepressants of the serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor (SNRI) class. They are prescribed to people like me who suffer from major depressive disorders. Unfortunately Duloxetine made me very nauseous and I felt quite heavily drugged whilst taking this medication. I decided to go back and see my GP in late June to see if I could move to something else, and she asked me if I would be willing to try another SNRI. I said yes, although I was sceptical. I mean how different could it be from Duloxetine? She prescribed me a 37.5mg dose of Venlalic – this is a super baby dose –  it is half of minimum dose that is usually prescribed, but I am pleased to say that it works for me. My mood has lifted and I am less tempted to binge eat. After the first couple of weeks the side effects lifted completely – the standard light headedness and nausea. I think this medication will always be part of my life as I would class myself as someone with chronic unhappiness and low mood even when life is good. I cry a lot when I am suffering. Depression is a flaw in chemistry, not character and I just need a little extra help. I will hopefully be ready to work at some point in the near future, but the focus is on getting well, and not running before I can walk.

I am exercising 5 times a week.

As I am not well enough to work at the moment (I am recovering from a lengthy breakdown) I have been making a concerted effort to incorporate exercise into my daily routine. At the moment I am doing Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred DVD 5 days a week and I am pleased to say that I have completed all levels (1,2 and 3). It’s an excellent all over body workout, and I feel so pleased when I complete it everyday. Although it does have me crawling to the shower afterward, drenched in sweat

I’m loving life and rebuilding my confidence.

Due to the above points, as well as my supportive husband, family and friends I am getting my joie de vivre back. This has been helped also by a couple of furry friends, as Chris and I also added to our family…no we didn’t get pregnant – not yet anyway, but we did adopt a beautiful tortoise-shell cat called Honey, who had been given up by her last owners. She’s 16 years old, friendly, vocal and very loving. She’s a pleasure to have in our family, and Penny seems to have taken to the new addition admirably well.

{Me and the hubs outside a friends wedding ceremony last Saturday}

So now lovelies, I hope you are all having an equally lovely summer, and always I would love to hear your feedback on Slimming World, depression, life or anything that you feel is appropriate.

Much “joie de vivre” love

Lizzie 

Motivational Monday

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Life sometimes will be hard. Boy it will be hard. It will also be unfair, hurtful and unjust. But like everything it has a flip side – there will also be moments that are wonderful, full of love, optimistic and elating.

Throughout my 30 year life my depression has knocked me down, family woes have knocked me down, bullies have knocked me down, so-called friends have knocked me down and I have knocked myself down. However I have never given up on myself. I have come close to it, but I have never really done it. I finally like who I am. I am proud of the person I have become, despite, and because of the depression. I am a fighter. You have to be when you have an illness. So here’s to fighting. Here’s to not giving up or giving in. Here’s to making the best of ourselves and finding the joy in the small moments.

I had an epiphany in February. My depression was at its worst and I felt like I couldn’t continue. I took a look in the mirror and thought my life feels pretty rubbish at the moment for various reasons, but I didn’t want my life to end. Life is a gift that many are denied, or it is cut short too soon for some. Mine hasn’t been, not only that but I also have a wonderful support network full of people who love me, and I love them. I had, and still have a choice; let the depression overcome me entirely and become this shell, or fight it. Fight with all my might to carve out a life that I want, that I deserve. That we all deserve.

So I chose to fight and I am happier for it. I take it day by day, but I am on my way to recovery.

Sunday’s Black Dog Mood

My weekend started out normally enough. On Friday night Chris and I went to a friends house for dinner. We had a lovely evening eating pasta, drinking wine (in my case diet coke) and chatting into the night. On Saturday we met up with the same friends to have lunch at Maidenhead Food market. So far so relaxing, and fun.

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Friday night relaxation at a friend’s house

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Maidenhead food market stand

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Queueing for yummy food

However I woke up today and something wasn’t right. My mood felt heavier than it had done in a while. As the morning went on it became clear that I was suffering from a depressive episode. I’m not sure if the depression is here temporarily or back to stay for a while.

So what happened today to confirm this fear?

Well there was a calm before the storm. I had breakfast and chatted to my husband. However I could feel little alarm bells going off in my head that I quite happily had been ignoring, but that I should have confronted. Firstly I slept longer than usual . This may sound inconsequential to most people but it is pivotal to my mood. I was awake by 8am, but stupidly continued to doze in bed until 10am. By the time I got out of bed I had a sleep hangover.

Secondly in order to keep my mind organised and healthy I need an uncluttered household. It does not have to be pristine, just tidy. However I havent kept on top of the house chores this week and the place is a state, a dirty messy state. The state of the house at the moment compounds my stress levels and anxiousness, and makes my depression feel worse. Also for the last couple of weeks I have been helping out a problematic family member, who because of their reckless behaviour can make me feel down and worried. I have been pushing these feelings aside in order to help them, but they also boiled up and over today.

I managed to stay calm until 12.15pm – I ate brunch and watched some television with my husband  and then went to get in the shower. I asked Chris for some help with the house chores on the way to the bathroom and we ended up bickering. The long and short of it is this: he works full-time and I work part-time. We have therefore agreed prior that I would do the lions share of the  chores. However this week I have avoided doing them because I have been feeling stressed. Avoiding the cleaning is a tiny sign, but a sign that I am not feeling well at the moment.

So today when Chris nicely but firmly challenged me on why I hadn’t been doing the chores I screamed and threw some things at the wall. Epic fail on my part and another sign that I am not feeling well at the moment. Chris then had to stop me getting into bed, because I was determined to go back to bed and avoid everything. I was abusive to him – I screamed, shouted and stomped my feet. My poor husband!

After I had climbed down from my temper tantrum, I had a cry and I apologised to Chris. He hugged me, forgave me and sent me off to get dressed. We drove to Windsor Great Park for a 2 mile walk and had lunch near the castle. It was the best thing he could have done for me today – he got me out in the fresh air and we walked and talked some of my mood off. As we walked we talked about how I was feeling, and what we could do to ease my anxiousness, stress levels and depression. We decided that I need to start going to bed earlier (9.00pm), get up at a decent time (8.00am) and that I should stop helping my family member during the working week –  a hard choice but one that is right for me. We also decided to download a weekly home cleaning schedule off Pinterest, which you can view here to help me keep on top of the house chores.

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In Windsor Great Park

I haven’t stuck to my diet today, but I plan to get back on track again tomorrow. Prior to today I had been having a successful week with my diet, and had even managed three days of exercise in a row. Here’s to applauding the small things, and dusting yourself off when you fall down.

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Afternoon coffee post walk, and it felt well deserved.

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Ironing, online food shopping and general relaxing this evening.